http://chastity.blog.co.uk/My thoughts, feelings and diary about a private part of my life. My handing control of my manhood to My Dearest. This is not intended as a site of descriptive sexual acts, but I suggest younger and more sensitive readers should not read it. My Dearest wants me to lose weight. She locks me up and I am only released if I manage to lose 2lb per week. If I fail, I remain locked up. The amount of time I am allowed out for is at My Dearest's discretion. en-UKhttp://backend.userland.com/rss092http://chastity.blog.co.uk/http://data5.blog.de/design/preview/0d/ce57662b19c857e4c53f7b2868b16b_160x200.jpg <p>Just another warning in case you missed the one above. This blog talks about adult stuff, so those of a nervous disposition, look away now!!</p> <p>Our game of where My Dearest wife locks my cock in a male chastity device and keeps the key has not really been a feature of our life for the past year or so. Other things have been getting in the way of having fun in bed.</p> <p>My Dearest has been enduring a considerable amount of physical pain. I'm not talking about emotional distress. This is the pain that makes you go ouch, but not only that, it hurts so much that she often has disturbed sleep at night, then during the day she has the usual toils of life to contend with. So in bed, sex and the fun and games that people enjoy have been forced out of our lives.</p> <p>We don't talk about it much either, but we don't need to, we both know the reasons.</p> <p>Last weekend, when we found ourselves together for a few moments with nothing else to do but chat, the subject came round to sex. My Dearest admitted that despite knowing that she shouldn't, she did feel very guilty that we didn't currently enjoy a sex life. I was wondering how to help her with these feelings of guilt. I said that I wanted to save myself for when she was ready, so I hadn't masturbated for several weeks. This in fact had the reverse effect and made her feel even more guilty. Then an idea came to me.</p> <p>I suggested that I will voluntarily lock myself into my chastity cage and hand her the key. I would then be unable to enjoy any sexual gratification, even if I wanted to. I then went on to say to My Dearest that only she will decide when to unlock me. I will have no say in the matter whatsoever. The only condition being that when she did unlock me, she will loose the control over me and she will get a right good fucking. This would not be a point for discussion so she must choose with care when she unlocked me. Once we are both satisfied, assuming I perform that well, I will once again lock myself into the cage.</p> <p>The main emphasis is that I am locking myself up voluntarily, that it is my decision and while locked she will be under no pressure to have sex. When I told her of this idea, her initial response was "you could be locked up for a long time". I assured her I understood this and that I realise that once the lock clicks, there is no going back. I reminded her that the pain that prevents her from having fun at night is not of her choosing, so if she has to live a life of enforced chastity, so will I.</p> <p>So I am now locked up. She has since told me that she likes the idea of being in control. I don't think we will have many conversations about it during the periods of my lock up. I have decided not to raise it in conversation. The point is for My Dearest not to feel pressured into sex and frolics if she doesn't feel like it. If I keep reminding her of my predicament, it could make her feel guilty again. Which is how this all started. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2008/03/30/title-3964866/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2008/03/30/title-3964866/Sun, 30 Mar 2008 01:21:30 +0100 <p>This blog covers two subjects. tracking my weight loss and my enforced chastity by My Dearest, who alone decides when I am to be locked and when I can be released.</p> <p>My Dearest lost interest in her keyholding role and as a consequence I have not been locked up for over a year. This means that I have not had the motivation to lose weight. I have tried to keep an eye on my food intake and exercise regularly, but my weight has more or less remained static.</p> <p>Last night, My Dearest and I got chatting about what we used to do that we don't do anymore. That we have let our lives come a bit mundane. We didn't make any resolutions last night, but we both agreed that we should add a little spark to our lives.</p> <p>We talked about my enforced chastity. I even weighed myself and found that my post Christmas body tips the scales at 181 pounds. When I was actively trying to lose 2 pounds per week. I had got down to 177 pounds. As the graphic above shows, my target is 154 pounds. Since I am taking our son skiing in March, I should really get back to losing some more pounds.</p> <p>During our conversation I said I wanted to return to being chaste for her. For My Dearest to become my Keyholder again. I said I wanted My Dearest and only My Dearest to decide when I am locked and when I am unlocked. I said she could leave me locked for days, weeks, longer if she wanted. If she wanted sex, She would have the key to <em>Her</em> cock and once satisfied, could replace the cage straight away. I stressed she was in control.</p> <p>I decided to tell her straight, we've done all this before. I know some women find the idea of keyholding difficult to cope with, so take time to come to terms with it. I think I know My Dearest well enough to know she would not be phased by me coming out with this suggestion.</p> <p>As is typical of My Dearest, she didn't immediately jump up and demand that I lock up there and then. Neither did she say that's not what she wants to do. No that is not the way she works. She will think about it and <em>perhaps</em> in a couple of days, I might receive the instruction to lock up.</p> <p>Or I might not. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2008/01/15/another_go~3579644/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2008/01/15/another_go~3579644/Tue, 15 Jan 2008 11:31:40 +0100 <p>It's been a long time since I've posted here. Mainly because there hasn't been that much activity in the chastity side of my life. My Dearest, has other things on her mind.</p> <p>I notice from the site statistics that quite a few people pop by, perhaps you have a read, perhaps not. Anyway, hi there, hope you are all well.</p> <p>I found a book on Amazon the other day about Male Chastity: A Guide For Keyholders. I wonder if I should get it as a little extra Christmas gift for My Dearest. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2007/12/05/hi_there~3400775/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2007/12/05/hi_there~3400775/Wed, 05 Dec 2007 20:54:11 +0100 <p>After an extended rest period during which I was not locked, I came to bed last night to find a small padlock lying on my pillow. Clear instructions that I am to lock my cock up in the CB3000.</p> <p>I have now been locked up for 24 hours and I don't know how long I will remain locked. Also it am not sure if this is in connection with any weight loss. Due to other things going on, I have not lost as much weight as I should have done, though I am quite pleased I have not actually put any weight back on.</p> <p>Another thought is next weekend we go off to the Med on holiday, I am now starting to wonder if My Dearest will let me out before we go. or am I going to have to stay locked for the whole two weeks we are away? <img src="/img/smilies/icon_sad.gif" alt=":(" class="middle" border="0"> </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/07/18/more_mind_games~970225/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/07/18/more_mind_games~970225/Tue, 18 Jul 2006 23:45:16 +0200 <p>After a couple of weeks not trying very hard. I find that not only did I not put any weight on, but I lost 2 more pounds over the last week. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/06/20/back_on_track~897471/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/06/20/back_on_track~897471/Tue, 20 Jun 2006 18:47:29 +0200 <p>Oops! <img src="/img/smilies/icon_redface.gif" alt=":oops:" class="middle" border="0"> going the wrong way. I should consider myself lucky that it is only a pound, considering the lack of effort I have been putting into this over the past couple of weeks.</p> <p>Must try harder. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/05/24/up_1_pound~824815/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/05/24/up_1_pound~824815/Wed, 24 May 2006 09:02:55 +0200 <p>This has become more of a weight loss blog instead of a chastity blog. I feel I am losing sight of why we are playing this game.</p> <p>I stress again this is a game. A bit of fun and if either of us wants to step back a bit, it happens.</p> <p>Without any words being said between us, that is in fact what has happened over the past few weeks. A number of reasons, I was getting tired of the constant effort to lose weight which was made more difficult by an ear problem that kept me away from the swimming pool (my preferred form of exercise). My Dearest was having a few medical problems that was keeping her awake at night. On top of this I was going through a particularly stressful time at work. Working everyday, often weekends too, away early, back late. All in all not a good time to be playing this sort of game. So it kind of stopped.</p> <p>I’ve been out of the CB3000 for a couple of weeks now, My Dearest let me out after I had achieved my target weight for that week and has not yet handed the padlock back to me (when I am let out, My Dearest keeps the padlock until I am lock up again). I was more than happy about this, so didn’t say anything in case she changed her mind.</p> <p>Last Monday was particularly stressful for our own separate reasons and I didn’t even weigh myself. Weight loss was the last thing on my mind and I don’t think I would have achieved the target weight. Officially tomorrow will be another weigh day, The best I am hoping is that I haven’t put weight on.</p> <p>I’ve come out of the busy work period now but the ear problem is still with me though I think it is getting better. I am seeing the Doc tomorrow to make sure things are alright in there. Hopefully I will be able to start swimming again and make new efforts to lose the next 22lbs.</p> <p>I am not going to give so much of the running commentary from now on. The graphic will keep track of things and I will mention if I am locked or not.</p> <p>I am also trying to think of a few ways to freshen up this blog. To write about other aspects of being Chaste for My Dearest.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/05/21/i_m_back~818131/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/05/21/i_m_back~818131/Sun, 21 May 2006 20:22:15 +0200 <p>Like the new graphic?</p> <p>Have missed a few weeks, but the weighings have been going on. My Dearest has decided to change the rules a bit. Playing catch up was proving to be a dit difficult, so she now says I must lose 2lb from whatever I weigh. Fail and I stay locked, but I don't have to catch up in order to be released the following week.</p> <p>In fact over the past couple of weeks I've done quite well and have lost over the required 2lb. I am now back ahead of schedule.</p> <p>So this week I have reached the halfway point. 22lb lost and 22lb still to shed.</p> <p>I must stick at it. </p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/05/09/title~788107/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/05/09/title~788107/Tue, 09 May 2006 23:41:41 +0200 <p>Work and Easter holidays means I missed last week’s blog. I was weighed though. It was just I didn’t have time to write the blog.</p> <p>Last week my target weight was 13 stone 3 pounds. Which was made more difficult by the fact that I had to lose 3 pounds from the previous week. The hated electric scales flashed up the numbers 13 stone 2 pounds, so I had overshot by a pound. Under the rules I was allowed release for 1 day, If I had managed another pound, I would have been allowed 2 days.</p> <p>After the previous week’s weighing, I found out that even if I had reached my target, I would not have been released. I realised I could not take anything for granted. This time though, My Dearest decided my penis could be unlocked from its clear plastic cage.</p> <p>My Dearest thought hard about how to manage the next week. Since I was going away for most of it. I was expecting to be given instructions to lock up while I was away. I was wondering if I could get away with staying unlocked until the day I came home. She wouldn’t know any different would she? In the end My Dearest decided I could have the week off. Her reason being that it was a reward for losing a whole stone since we started this game. I still had the 2 pound target for next week, so I couldn’t be complacent.</p> <p>My week away I knew would be a challenge since I would be eating out every night. During the day I kept away from nibbling sweets and things and only had a light snack at lunch time. In the morning I often popped into the local Tesco supermarket for a mixed salad and some fruit to have for lunch. I also tried to exercise by taking a walk everyday.</p> <p>By the weekend, I thought I had done quite well, though I realised that I would be lucky to go too far beyond the 2 pounds required.</p> <p>Monday night arrived and I stepped onto the scales. The reading was 13 stone 4 pounds. Once again I had gone UP 2 pounds.</p> <p>This was bad news.</p> <p>My Dearest let me off being locked up straight away, but she told me that I should do so the next morning. OK that I can cope with. What I am really cheesed off about is that for next Monday, I should lose not only the 2 pounds that I gained but also the 2 pounds I should have lost last week and the 2 pounds I am due to lose for the current week. A total of 6 pounds. That is quite a target and not something I am looking forward to.</p> <p>This morning I locked the CB3000 chastity device only my penis. If I fail to achieve the 6 pound target by next Monday, I will not be released and will remain locked for another week. As each week goes by, another 2 pounds is taken from my target weight. I will only be allowed out when I manage to get back on schedule. I expect that this time, it will be staying on for longer than a week.<img src="/img/smilies/icon_sad.gif" alt=":(" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/04/18/2_weeks_later~736088/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/04/18/2_weeks_later~736088/Tue, 18 Apr 2006 12:05:25 +0200 <p>Another week has passed. My timetable over the last 7 days has been that I had a little more control over the type of food that I eat, so I was keen to make an extra effort, to get a few more than the standard 2 pounds off. I was also able to find the time to get some extra swimming sessions too. This week I was confident that I would be OK.</p> <p>Last week I had only dropped 2 pounds, so under the rules I should have been allowed just 1 day release. I admit to be getting a bit cheesed off with all this and so I wasn’t too unhappy when I wasn’t instructed to lock up again after the 24 hours had expired. In fact I had quite a few extra days of freedom. It was on Saturday night when My Dearest left the padlock to my CB3000 on my bedside table. Unfortunately I did not see it until the next morning. Whoops!</p> <p>So with just 2 days and 1 night before the next weighing and almost certain release, I locked myself up again.</p> <p>It was during Monday that I made a casual comment to My Dearest that if she wanted, we would be able to make love that night. She suggested that she might not let me out since I had been out for most of the week anyway. That came as something of a shock. We have the rules dictating when and for how long I will be let out, but My Dearest does have overall veto, and can decide to leave my cock locked in its cage if she feels that I do not deserve release.</p> <p>That night, I weighed myself. Last week I was 13 stone 7 pounds, so my target was 13 stone 5 pounds. I stood on the scales and it displayed 13 stone 5 pounds. I had done it, though I was a little taken aback that I had not lost more. I decided to weigh myself again. This time the reading was 13 stone 6 pounds eek!</p> <p>I then proceeded to weigh myself several times more, in order to gain some sort of consensus. On all but 2 occasions the results were 13 stone 6 pounds.</p> <p>This is bad news. It was definite, I was not being released this week. My cock is to be locked for at least another 7 days. Also to make matters worse. My target for next week is catch up what I failed to lose this week and then lose another 2 pounds as well. So in order to have any chance of being let out next Monday, I must lose 3 pounds. My target for next week is 13 stone 3 pounds.</p> <p>I am keeping a record of my weight loss since I started this game back at the end of February. Had I lost a regular 2 pounds per week, week in week out. I would be the same weight as I am now. So all the gains I made by losing extra weight some weeks have been lost when I failed to keep up on other weeks.</p> <p>When I started this, I weighed 14 stone 2 pounds, and since then I have lost 10 pounds, or 5.1% of my original body weight. My Dearest is sympathetic, and says it is good that I lost 1 pound. She is still not letting me out though.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/04/04/another_7_days_go_by~701852/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/04/04/another_7_days_go_by~701852/Tue, 04 Apr 2006 16:03:41 +0200 <p>I’m losing the enthusiasm for this game. I think this could have something to do with other problems far more important getting in the way.</p> <p>Last week has been particularly busy at work. Nearly every night I have been working late, unable to give My Dearest an accurate time as to when I will be home. Then I had to work on Saturday. Lots of people do work on Saturday I grant you, and I do so regularly. But put into context that this past week should have been a week of annual leave for me. You can perhaps understand My Dearest’s frustration.</p> <p>The next weighing was last Monday 27th March. The stressful and extended hours of working last week had resulted in me nibbling lot more than usual. Fruit yes, but still a source of sugar. I was guessing that I would not have lost a huge amount of weight. Over the week. I stepped on the scales and it read 13 stone 7 pounds. I then tried again, 13 stone 6 pounds, then again 13 stone 5 pounds. I was starting to enjoy this. At one point I got it to read 13 stone 2 pounds.</p> <p>After fiddling about, making sure there was no dirt where it shouldn’t be, then moving it to another part of the floor (you never know). At last I managed to get a consistent result. Sadly not as low as 13 stone 2 pounds, but to the original read out of 13 stone 7 pound. Exactly 2 pounds lost over the week.</p> <p>Under the rules, I am allowed out of the chastity device for 1 complete day. My Dearest handed me the key.</p> <p>It is now Wednesday and I should have been locked back last night. I don’t know if My Dearest has forgotten or decided to be generous, but she did not hand me her padlock. So I am still unlocked, after last week I am very happy to have a bit of a holiday so I am not going to remind her. I am still trying to loose weight and this week I am going to try and shed more than the obligatory 2 pounds.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/29/is_this_getting_boring~682797/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/29/is_this_getting_boring~682797/Wed, 29 Mar 2006 12:41:33 +0200 <p>I continue my weight loss diet using an unusal motivation. I have to lose at least 2 pounds a week. during this time I am made to wear a male chastity device on my cock, My Dearest has the key and it is she who decides if I have earned a weekly release. If I don't manage the 2 pound drop, the CB3000 cage is kept locked for another week.</p> <p>Following last week’s disaster when I not just failed to lose the 2 pounds, but gained 2 pounds instead. I was determined to make sure that this week, the scales told only the truth. It turned out that the batteries had not been changed the other week so I decided I will change them.</p> <p>Buying them proved to be not as easy as I expected. I thought two AA Duracells would fix it until I found out that it required two button cells. Into town I went and eventually found the right type hanging up behind the cash desk at Dixons.</p> <p>Come the weighing. I decided to weigh myself twice. Once with the old batteries, and once with the new set. On the scales I stood and it came out 13 stone 8 pounds. A drop of 4 pounds since last week. Not bad I thought, considering I had spent four days and 3 nights away. Technically under the rules, in order to be released, I had to lose 6 pounds. the 2 pounds I had gained, plus the 2 pounds I should have lost last week, plus the 2 pounds for this week as well. I was expecting that would be too difficult and had got my brain set for a 2 week lockup with me going for 8 pounds in two weeks. That would put me back on target.</p> <p>I then replaced the batteries in the scales and weighed myself again with the new set. This time it said 13 stone 9 pounds.</p> <p>Technically, under the rules, My Dearest could have kept my cock locked up for another week. Instead she felt that I have done well enough over the last week. Since the scales have been playing up, she has decided that I can be released after all. For 2 whole days.</p> <p>My weight is now officially 13 stone 9 pounds, and that means my target for next week will be 13 stone 7 pounds.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/22/my_dearest_is_so_kind~665332/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/22/my_dearest_is_so_kind~665332/Wed, 22 Mar 2006 00:25:13 +0100 <p>What a weekend it's been, I won't go into all the decisions that I am thinking about but they are contributing towards my general stress levels. Then on Monday night I stand on the scales to find that my weight had gone UP. And if I wanted any hope of my cock being released next week I will have to drop not 2 pounds but 6 pounds.</p> <p>It didn’t help my mood the next morning when I got a spam email telling me that Oprah lost 14 pounds in 5 weeks and to check out a website. Big deal I thinks, that is just 2.8 pounds per week I've got to do better than that.</p> <p>Of course even if I achieve the target, chances are I will only be allowed out for a day.</p> <p>I have been wondering how, when I have been doing all the right things during the week, that I managed not only fail to loose the 2 pounds, but to gain 2 instead. I now suspect the electric scales. After all, My Dearest said last week she wasn’t sure if it was reading correctly. Problem is, I am not allowed to weigh myself during the week to see how things are going. A rule My Dearest and I agreed to, to make things more interesting. It’s doing that alright. I am considering making up a known weight to test the scales. A bag of sand or something like that. Then each time I am weighed. I weigh the bag first to see if that has lost or gained weight. If the weight is changing, then I will know that something is wrong with the scales.</p> <p>OK, lets try and be positive, I've had a setback now to move forward. I am starting to think that 6 pounds in a week, though not impossible, after all that's what I managed during the first week, could be too difficult a target for me. But 8 pounds in a fortnight or 4 pounds a week would be more achievable. I just need to get my mind adjusted to a 2 week continuous lock up. This would be by far the longest time I would have been locked in the CB3000. Not a prospect I am looking forward to but these are the rules. I am just going to have to accept them.</p> <p>One of the reasons why I don't think I will be able to make the target is that during the week I will be going away on business. 3 nights away in a hotel. 4 days away being fed from restaurants. Sounds good doesn’t it. Not if you’re trying to loose 6 pounds it’s not. Then comes the sociable drinks. I don’t drink alcohol as a rule, and normally have soft drinks. I was thinking of having fruit juices instead, that was until I found out the other day that they can be just as bad as a Coke. Terrrrrriffic!</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/14/stop_wingeing_deal_with_it~643771/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/14/stop_wingeing_deal_with_it~643771/Tue, 14 Mar 2006 21:55:44 +0100 <p>Big disaster today. The day of my third weighing.</p> <p>I was happy that I had done so well. At last week’s weighing I had lost 6 pounds and so had earned 3 days release. In fact I was out for longer. Yes I due to the reasons that I explained in my last blog entry, I was released one day late. So I should have been locked up again on Friday night. My Dearest decided to be kind and kept me out for another day.</p> <p>So on Saturday night I was locked up. My Dearest then gave ME a massage. Yes that is correct. I had quite a stressful day and had been in a really off mood, she realised I was all tensed up and decided to calm me down a bit. So being released for an extra day, and given a massage, I was doing alright. The following night I returned the favour. I did the massaging. I went on to give her an extra favour using my tongue that would let her go to sleep with a smile, and very relaxed. <img src="/img/smilies/graysleep.gif" alt=":zz:" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>We reached Monday. I was being weighed this evening. I was confident I would be let out. I had continued to watch what I was eating, no snacking between meals and no fizzy soft drinks. Also I had been swimming about 4 times over the past week. If I had managed to lose 6 pounds the previous week, all I wanted to know this week was how many pounds over the obligatory 2 had I lost.</p> <p>Last week I was 13 stone 10 pounds, I needed to be below 13 stone 8 pounds to be released. I stood on the scales. The display flashed and the reading said 13 stone 12 pounds. I had gone UP by two pounds. <img src="/img/smilies/icon_censored.gif" alt=">:XX" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>Now this is bad news. I was 4 pounds over the weight I should have been. The rules are clear on this matter. I did not achieve the target weight I will not be released from my CB3000 for at least a week. That is not all. Next Monday my target will be 2 pounds down from this week’s. So by next week, if I am to be released, I must weigh 13 stone 6 pounds. A reduction of 6 pounds from what I weigh today. Failure to reach that target and I will remain locked for yet another 7 days.</p> <p>I have got my work cut out. <img src="/img/smilies/grayupset.gif" alt=":##" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/14/the_third_weighing~641169/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/14/the_third_weighing~641169/Tue, 14 Mar 2006 00:53:03 +0100 <p>Last Monday was the day of my second weighing.</p> <p>At the first weighing I was 14stone 2 pounds. Under the terms of the deal with My Dearest, I must lose 2 pounds a week. I am to remained locked in my CB3000 cage for the week, and only be allowed release if I achieve my target weight. I will be allowed out for 24 hours for hitting the target, which increases by 24 hours for every 2 pounds I have lost beyond the target weight.</p> <p>On Monday things had over-run at work and I was late home. I got in at quarter past midnight. My Dearest had already gone to bed, her work involved more sensible office hours, so she had to get up in the morning. So did I come to that. Before turning in myself I stood on the scales but since My Dearest was asleep there was nothing I could do. The next morning I was off before My Dearest woke, so it was another day of being locked. <img src="/img/smilies/icon_sad.gif" alt=":(" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>Tuesday evening and I got home at a sensible time. My Dearest then told me that the electronic scales appeared to be under reading due to a low battery, so I was going to have to weigh myself again. I’m not sure if this was genuine, or she was being evil, either way I had no choice but to comply. <img src="/img/smilies/icon_confused.gif" alt=":-/" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p>The scales read 13 stone 10 pounds, a loss over the week of 6 pounds. That gave me a release duration of 3 days. <img src="/img/smilies/icon_biggrin.gif" alt=":D" class="middle" border="0"> This comes after a total of 9 days locked.</p> <p>I am now enjoying my freedom, but I must be mindful that I will now have to weigh 13 stone 8 pounds or less by next Monday otherwise the cage that is due to be locked back onto my penis on Friday, will remain on for the whole of next week. <img src="/img/smilies/icon_neutral.gif" alt=":|" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p><img src="/img/smilies/icon_wave.gif" alt=":wave:" class="middle" border="0"></p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/09/the_second_weighing~627686/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/09/the_second_weighing~627686/Thu, 09 Mar 2006 18:16:30 +0100 <p>Just a reminder that this blog is an adult site as it covers sex and enforced chastity.</p> <p>---------------------------------------------------------------</p> <p>The rules have changed in our house a couple of days ago. Over the weekend I told My Dearest that she should be a lot more dominant and be prepared to use the CB3000 more often. She had gone through a bit of a bad patch what with personal problems, a death in her family as well has having to contend with poor health. I felt the time was right to kick her back into her old self. That night I saw to it that she went to sleep with a smile on her face.</p> <p>I don’t think she really knew how best to respond to my suggestion, though she appeared keen. An idea had come to me a few days previously so I decided to give it a go.</p> <p>I have to say that I am a bit overweight. For nearly all of my adult life I have been heavier than the recommended weight for my height, but I never considered myself fat. More recently I had noticed that my weight was going up again. I had been swimming at a local health club several times a week but this had not reduced my weight to any great extent. So I thought perhaps My Dearest would be prepared to combine the CB3000 cage with a weight reduction regime. I made the suggestion, and she jumped at it. It turned out that she was also concerned about my weight.</p> <p>On Sunday night, As I came to bed, My Dearest handed me her small padlock, with the instructions to put my cage on. I did as I was told. I got the impressions that this was not going to be just an overnight confinement. For the first time ever, My Dearest wore the key to the padlock on a gold chain round her neck.</p> <p>Since she didn't made up the rules until later, she had me locked up an extra day before I weighed myself on Monday night:</p> <p>14 stone 2 pounds.</p> <p>The rules are such. Every Monday night I will be weighed, if I have lost 2 pounds or more since the previous week. The cage will be removed for 24 hours. If I have lost 4 pounds, then the cage will stay off for 48 hours. 6 pounds off and my free time goes up to 72 hours. My Dearest doesn’t think I will be capable of loosing any more than that in a week.</p> <p>If at the Monday night weighing, I find that I have not lost 2 pounds since the previous week, then the cage will stay lock on my cock for another week. Furthermore, not only do I have to catch up the shortfall, I also have to loose another 2 pounds on top of that in order to maintain the 2 pounds per week weight drop.</p> <p>I cannot bank the weight loss. What I mean is if I lose 4 pounds over the course of a week. I still have to lose another 2 pounds by following week in order to earn release, I can’t just stay static knowing I’ve already lost my 2 pounds for the second week.</p> <p>There is just one more rule, no intermediate weighing, I must only stand on the scales on Monday night. I am not allowed to try my weight during the week to see how I am doing.</p> <p>So it is now Thursday night, I have been wearing the CB3000 now for 4 complete days, and I know I will not be released for another 4 days at the very earliest and only if, on Monday night I weigh 14 stone 0 pounds or less. Any more than that, and the key will remain on its chain around My Dearest’s neck, and cage will remain unlocked for another 7 days.</p> <p>I have not worn the cage for this long since last summer and only once for as long as a week, At the moment I have to say that the cage locked to my penis is a touch irritating. I am always aware it is there. An important reminder earlier this evening as I was standing next to the chocolate counter in the queue to pay, having just filled my car with fuel. Last week I would not have resisted the temptation like I did today.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/03/well_it_s_one_way_to_loose_weight~608127/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/03/03/well_it_s_one_way_to_loose_weight~608127/Fri, 03 Mar 2006 00:58:43 +0100 <p>My Dearest and I play a game. I give the control of my penis to My Dearest, I have give her the right to decide when it is locked up and when it can be unlocked, she decides when we make love. My Dearest is the keyholder.</p> <p>So does this mean I am constantly locked up, Giving pleasure to My Dearest while unable to achieve erection for days or even weeks? Only released when My Dearest requires the services of my cock? Then to be locked up again straight afterwards?</p> <p>No, that is not the case. The last time I was locked in the CB3000 cage was on the 26th December. My family were visiting, as they do at that time of year. During the morning before they arrived, I found My Dearest waiting for me in our bedroom. With that lovely wicked smile of hers, she handed me the box with the CB3000 inside it saying, "put it on". So I spent the day playing host to my relatives, all the time my penis was confined in its cage. That evening after everyone had gone and we had cleared up, My Dearest let me out for her pleasure.</p> <p>Since then the cage has remained in its box on the shelf. A couple of times she has hinted I be will be locked up that night but when I come to bed, nothing more is said.</p> <p>So has My Dearest lost interest in this little game that we play? We don't talk about it much, but the times when we do, she says she gets a buzz about being in control and seeing "her" cock all locked up.</p> <p>The problem is that My Dearest has enough on her plate. For reasons which are not relavent, she is regularly in pain at night and therefore has difficulty in sleeping. As a result she is constantly tired. When she goes to bed, fun and games is the last thing on her mind.</p> <p>I know she doesn't mean to shut me out, she is trying to deal with her problems and I am powerless to help. I don't regret that she is not playing our game, what I regret is the reason why she is no longer playing.</p> <p>So what do I do? There is only one thing I can do, wait. Be there when she needs me, step back when she doesn't. It's difficult but it is even more difficult for her.</p> <p>Strange though it may seem, I feel as if I am being selfish when I regret that My Dearest doesn't feel like having some fun with me, especially when what I am suggesting involves my unselfish devotion to My Dearest.</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/02/10/i_thought_i_had_problems~552114/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/02/10/i_thought_i_had_problems~552114/Fri, 10 Feb 2006 16:20:40 +0100 <p>Let me get this straight, there are people who lock up their penis in a plastic tube, they can’t touch it, and then give the key to someone else, leaving them with the decision as to when to let them out?</p> <p>Well I have never been asked that question, but I expect it is the sort of thing someone might ask if I was telling them about the idea of male chastity. It is not the sort of thing you talk about in polite company. Consequently I have no idea as to how many other people are interested in the subject or actively practice it. There are companies who make an income selling the devices, so there must be quite a few.</p> <p>So why do people do this? Well you can look at a lot of activities that consenting adults get up to and ask the same question. For me it’s a bit of fun, you could call it day time bondage. Bondage is no longer the taboo subject it recently was. I can step into a shop in my local high street and buy bondage equipment. The shop windows are not even frosted up.</p> <p>The keyholder is the person holding the key to the man’s penis. So how does it benefit them? The idea is that the keyholder has full control of the man’s penis. When wearing the Male Chastity Device (MCD), the man is unable to achieve a full erection and cannot receive any form of sexual gratification. He can still urinate, but that is about it. Usually the keyholder is the man’s partner, though some single men make the use of keyholding services, where the key is sent away to a professional keyholder for a predetermined length of time.</p> <p>In the case of the keyholder being the man’s partner, The keyholder knows that her man (of course the keyholder can also be a man), cannot take part in any form of sexual act without her permission. The man becomes more attentive to the needs of his partner, both in bed and around the house. Trying to please his keyholder and to earn release. Of course if the keyholder does not wish to release her man’s penis, then locked up it will stay. </p> <p>I took delivery of my CB3000 Male Chastity Device in September 2004. As I said in my previous entry, this is my second attempt at writing this blog, The last blog under this title consisted of around 5 lengthy entries describing the events of the last year surrounding my experience both good and bad of the MCD. I will now try and reduce this down to just one entry, thought it might be a bit of a long post.</p> <p>There are two main factors to wearing a MCD, comfort and security. You must be able to wear it for extended periods while carrying out your normal day to day activites. Also you must not be able to remove it unless you have the key, even if you want to. It turns out that getting both these factors right is not as easy as you think. The CB3000 is in two parts. The A-ring, which goes round the penis behind the scrotum, and the cage, which encases the penis shaft itself. A series of plastic rods or pins connects the two parts, trapping the testicles in between. The padlock fits onto the end of the main pin, thus preventing the ring and cage from being separated. The CB3000 is supplied with a range of parts to allow for the size variations of the male population. 5 A-rings, each of different sizes. Also 3 lengths of pins and a selection of spacers to ensure that the two parts are held close enough to ensure that the testicles cannot escape, but far enough apart so not to cause discomfort.</p> <p>It is advised to spend some time experimenting with the different rings and spacers. What might seem a good fit at first may turn out to be not quite as OK after a few hours. During this period of experimenting it is advised to keep hold of a key in case you need to let yourself out.</p> <p>When we ordered the CB3000, My Dearest appeared to be enthusiastic about the idea. We both saw it as a bit of fun. Now the device had arrived, I noticed what I sensed to be a cooling off in My Dearest. Not interested, If I brought the subject up, it would be expertly changed quite quickly in the conversation. I had also joined a discussion forum on this subject and it was a common theme, that some potential “keyholders” do not necessarily take to the idea, and need time to come to terms with what it involved and how it benefited them. So I backed off a bit.</p> <p>After a few months, I raised the subject at an appropriate moment. I asked if she was still keen, “Oh yes, I am just waiting for you to give me the key”. Soon after, she got the key. Again I waited, waiting for instructions from My Dearest to put the MCD on. It didn’t happen, and again I wondered if she had second thoughts.</p> <p>During this time, I also had doubts. Wondering if this was just some weird fad that was now passing. I would be thankful that My Dearest had not exercised her power to lock me in the chastity device. Strangely, that also would pass, and I would again desire to wear the MCD and to give my attention to the needs of My Dearest.</p> <p>It was early summer when I sensed the time was right to raise the subject again. It was a warm evening and we had enjoyed some time in the garden. My Dearest normally went to bed before me, and as she got up, I asked if she wanted me to be wearing my cage when I came up. She gave me that wicked smile that I love so much, and said “yes”. I did as I was told and that night gave her my full attention. At no time did I get any sexual gratification, except for the pleasure in satisfying My Dearest.</p> <p>I was going off to work early the next day, and I thought she would give me the key as I got up. No she didn’t, I realised I was going to have to work while wearing the MCD. I don’t have a desk job, and I do quite a lot of moving around. Fortunately the time spent experimenting paid off and I was quite comfortable. I was always aware of the MCD being there, but it didn’t stop me from working.</p> <p>There was a small problem. In the evening, while attending to My Dearest, my penis would be attempting to become erect, unable to do so by the MCD. This was causing me pain. Pain was not the object of why we were doing this, it was not part of the deal. On the 3rd evening, I asked to be released. The next day I investigated and decided that the reason was that the A-ring I had used was too small. So I fitted it again (using a padlock for which I had the key), this time using a larger ring. That night I told My Dearest what I had done for which she thanked me. This felt a lot more comfortable. Though this now affected the security. During work, a few days later, I knelt down and I felt one of my testicles escape through the A-ring. Knowing that leaving it like this could be a problem, I went off to the toilets and adjusted things back to how they should be. After a week of almost continuous lock up. My Dearest released me. I realised again that adjustment was again necessary.</p> <p>Since that time, I have been trying to find that happy medium of security and comfort. The problem being that after a number of days of continuous wear, the rubbing of the MCD against parts of my genitalia would cause skin to become raw and painful. During this time I was thankful that My Dearest was not instructing me to lock up. I still had control and therefore able to experiment. It was about 2 months after the first time she locked me up when she gave me the instructions again. Again she allowed me to pleasure her while not being able to receive anything in return. Except for the delight in seeing My Dearest enjoying my attentions. A few days later, I had to spends several days away on business. As I left in the morning, still locked up, I realised that I would be remaining locked for at least the next 5 days. It would be the longest period that I would have been locked continuously.</p> <p>This time it felt different. I was comfortable, but unlike previous times, I did not have the key with me. I knew that my penis was locked for the duration. It both scared and excited me. Even after I returned home, I was still denied release.</p> <p>It was 11 days after I had been locked, when a big problem happened. It was the middle of the night and I was asleep. Quite often in the early hours, men have an erection. This is normal, and nothing to be ashamed of. If the man is wearing a MCD, the penis straining against the cage, often causes the man to wake. By now I have become used to this and I was no longer disturbed by it. This time, I was woken by the sensation of something giving way. Soon after I experienced pain along my penis. While lying in the dark, and trying not to disturb My Dearest. I tried to work out what the problem was. I was able to reduce the pain, but something still did not feel right. I got up to go to the toilet and have a look in the light. The CB3000 plastic cage is made up of two parts, welded together down the length of the cage. What had happened is that one of the welds had given way under the strain of my nocturnal erection, causing the two parts to separate slightly. The pain I had experienced was my skin being pinched by the two sections. I realised that this was a problem. I had no choice but to wake My Dearest and ask for the key.</p> <p>The incident had causes some scratching on the skin of my penis, this took a number of days to heal. The cage of the CB3000 was just under a year old and the suppliers agreed that it must be faulty and they replaced it free of charge.</p> <p>This incident did raise the question, what if this had happened while I was away on business? I also had thoughts that perhaps I don’t really want to do this and I was being silly. I did consider not replacing the broken cage section of the MCD, but I decided that the offer to replace it for free would not last forever, so I sent it off anyway. The new cage sat it its box for quite a while after it had arrived.</p> <p>It was during this time that I deleted the entries of my previous blog. I thought that perhaps this was the end of this particular little game. It was time to move on. At least, that’s what I thought……….</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/01/04/a_long_year~438396/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2006/01/04/a_long_year~438396/Wed, 04 Jan 2006 00:26:10 +0100 <p>This is the second time I have written this blog. Earlier this year I started a blog, same title, similar description. I wrote about five or six lengthy descriptions of how my wife and I got into male chastity, though I didn’t really touch on the WHY.</p> <p>The blog wasn’t really intended on a broadcast to all the world, though having attached the tags titled “sex” and “chastity” to it, I should not be surprised that it did attract a certain amount of reading.</p> <p>Then on my most recent posting, a comment came back, from a reader, basically saying wow! Does this sort of thing really go on? Much to my surprise, this freaked me out a bit. Making me feel that I was exposing a kinky side of my life. My reaction was to delete the entire blog. I’ll never make an archivist, “I don’t like the picture in that book, burn down the whole library”.</p> <p>I now realise that this was a bit of an over reaction, and now all my writings are gone. What I should have done was to respond to the comment, and suggest that this is perhaps more common than most people perhaps realise.</p> <p>Well I am not going to re-write the entire description that I deleted, that would take far too long, but I think some form of story so far is required if anyone is going to understand what the hell I am going on about.</p> <p>When one refers to a chastity belt, this would probably give a view in the mind of a device used in medieval times. Of the design of a belt round the waist and between the legs, with locks, so that a key is needed to remove it. A knight going off to the crusades would lock up his lady before he leaves and so preventing her from having a sexual relation with anyone else while he is away. Thus ensuring she remains faithful. Quite what would happen if the knight is killed while in the Holy Land is not documented as far as I know. Well there is still an industry that makes these devices, the design of which not having changed a great deal.</p> <p>But this is not what this blog is about. No I am talking about male chastity. Using a device that prevents a man from having a sexual relation, and like the female version, a key is required to remove it. So why would anyone want to use such a device? Here is my story.</p> <p>I enjoy a healthy sexual relationship with My Dearest wife. As time moved on I had a desire to experiment, create a bit of spice, but all in the privacy of our bedroom. I introduced this to my My Dearest by buying her some special Christmas presents, a maid’s uniform and some purple fur lined handcuffs, bought from a shop in our local high street. At the time I wasn’t sure how she was going to react, fortunately it ended up starting a new phase in our sexual relationship.</p> <p>Wind on a few months and while doing some casual surfing, I find a UK based site that specialised in selling Male Chastity Devices (MCD). My interest roused, I research some more, and find there is a cottage industry making all sorts of implements to adorn my manhood as well as a Yahoo discussion forum. In fact there are probably Google links to various sites below this entry. My fascination remained with MCDs. They tended to take a very similar form, a ring that goes around the penis behind the testicles and the rest of the penis slipping into a tube or cage. The testicles hang down as normal but the cage and ring are joined together close enough to prevent them from escaping. A small padlock locks everything down, the key is the only means of release. While wearing the device, the wearer is unable to achieve a full erection and sex is impossible or at most extremely difficult. Of course who holds on to the key is all part of the fun. That person who is formally known as the “keyholder” is the one who in effect has final say when release will happen. Which could be anytime later that day, the next day, week or month. Some claim to be locked up for a year or more, though some of these claims should be taken with a little pinch of salt.</p> <p>I don’t really want to go into full descriptions of what is out there, if anyone is interested, perhaps they might like read about it at <a href="http://www.chastity-uk.co.uk">www.chastity-uk.co.uk</a> An informative web site giving some insight into what this is all about.</p> <p>I decide that this might be a fun thing to do, and introduce the idea to My Dearest. She agrees to be keyholder and I order a device formally know as the CB3000. A modern low profile design made of clear plastic, I realise that part of the game is to wear the device away from the bedroom, while going about my normal daily business. So I wanted a design that would not be too revealing under my clothing.</p> <p>I’m going to pause now. In my next entry I will talk about why I wanted to do this, also mention some of the trials and tribulations of wearing the CB3000.</p> <p>Bye for now</p> <p> <small> <a href="http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2005/12/15/a_new_start~389186/#comments">Comments</a> </small> </p>http://chastity.blog.co.uk/2005/12/15/a_new_start~389186/Thu, 15 Dec 2005 17:30:51 +0100